Tag Archives: Values

The Science of Gratitude (or What your Mother didn’t teach you about how to say ‘Thank You’)

Posted on May 12, 2013 by

Saying thank you is important. Your parents probably spent hours drilling this into you. A polite ‘Thank you’ smooths social interaction and makes life a little kinder. But what your Mum probably didn’t teach you, was how to express heartfelt gratitude in … Continue reading →

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(How to) Stay on The F*****G Bus

Posted on March 17, 2013 by

I recently came across Helsinki bus theory, an interesting metaphor by the photographer Arno Minkinnen which is usually applied to creativity.  Being a big fan of bus metaphors, I started using it with my coaching clients and it resonates, so … Continue reading →

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Noticing How Desire Can Pull You Away From Your Values

Posted on February 26, 2013 by

When does desire pull you away from your values? It might be the impulse to buy more stuff that you don’t really need; watch TV instead of doing some exercise; let work dominate your  life; make poor choices that change your … Continue reading →

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Could It Be Helpful To Focus On Your Mistakes?

Posted on January 31, 2013 by

Do you have a tendency to focus on your mistakes? To notice the 5% of your presentation that wasn’t as good as it could be? To really remember and mentally grind over the times when your work was mediocre or … Continue reading →

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How You Can Make 2013 A Successful Year

Posted on January 3, 2013 by

So here we are in 2013. What will it take for you to define this year as successful? Let’s start by looking back on 2012. What did you achieve? What mistakes did you make? Where do you feel you failed? … Continue reading →

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How Moments of Joy and Pain Can Help You Work Out What Really Matters To You

Posted on December 11, 2012 by

In this noisy world, where we are bombarded with messages telling us what to think and do, it can be hard to work out what is really important to us. In this Big Think Interview, Steve Hayes gives two suggestions for … Continue reading →

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If You Can’t Have It All, What Can You Have?

Posted on October 29, 2012 by

I believe that we have been sold a myth. A myth that tells us ‘If you try really, really hard then you can have it all’ – love; money; success; a wonderful family; happy kids; health; a beautiful body; a … Continue reading →

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How Believing You Will Be Successful Leads to Success..or Not

Posted on August 17, 2012 by

If, like me, you watch ‘The Voice’ or ‘Dragon’s Den’ or ‘(Insert Country you live in here) Idol’ or any similarly painful and joyful reality TV show, you will have heard competitors proclaiming that they won because they had ‘absolute … Continue reading →

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10 Factors to Consider When Rewarding Staff

Posted on August 4, 2012 by

David has been working hard to deliver exceptional service. His manager, Sarah, is pleased and wants to recognise his efforts, so she nominates him for an ‘Employee of the Month’ award. David then starts to slack off. He puts in … Continue reading →

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Creating Great Mentoring Relationships

Posted on July 27, 2012 by

  Last night I spoke at an event held by the QUT Career Mentors Scheme. They were a great group of people – the mentees are students about to finish their degree and the mentors volunteer their time to support the … Continue reading →

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