Tag Archives: Acceptance

Could It Be Helpful To Focus On Your Mistakes?

Posted on January 31, 2013 by

Do you have a tendency to focus on your mistakes? To notice the 5% of your presentation that wasn’t as good as it could be? To really remember and mentally grind over the times when your work was mediocre or … Continue reading →

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Why Happiness Makes Me Grumpy (aka: The Limitations of Aiming for a Happy Workplace)

Posted on November 8, 2012 by

Most serious positive psychology researchers would agree with the idea that happiness should not be an objective.   But in my experience the message gets lost in translation, certainly among the many life coaches and pop psychologists who advocate the implementation … Continue reading →

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Why I Am Not As Empathic As I Want to Be

Posted on August 29, 2012 by

Last year, my daughter Ellie, had her wisdom teeth out. It was horrible. It is a painful and unpleasant procedure and, to make matters worse, Ellie has a needle phobia. Ellie felt terrified but she hid it well and looked completely calm. … Continue reading →

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The Benefits of Accepting Your Emotions and Treating Yourself Like A Child

Posted on May 2, 2012 by

Recently I was a bit upset. I was feeling sad, anxious and angry about a challenging situation in my life. I am not good with anger. My natural tendency is to fight it. I try to fix the feeling. My … Continue reading →

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Successful People Often Feel Bad Too

Posted on March 28, 2012 by

For most of my adult life I have worked in roles where people told me the truth about how they felt. This privilege has meant that I know an important secret. The secret is that most of us have good … Continue reading →

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Effective Decision Making

Posted on February 27, 2012 by

Sometimes we have to make important decisions where the ‘right’ answer is unclear. I would like to suggest this process for making for those tricker decisions: 1. Which of your values are relevant in this situation? 2. What are the … Continue reading →

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How to Build Engagement and Vitality

Posted on November 25, 2011 by

Are you willing to invest energy in your work? Do you persist in the face of difficulty and give your full attention to your work when you are at work? Do you feel like your work matters? Do you care … Continue reading →

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When Your Mind is Saying: ‘You Just Aren’t Good Enough’

Posted on November 18, 2011 by

I want to tell you a secret…I have a fierce ‘I am not good enough story’ running today. It has been in my face on and off most of the day. What triggered it? My dear friend and co-blogger, Rob … Continue reading →

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Handling Painful Thoughts and Feelings

Posted on September 29, 2011 by

If we are to live rich and meaningful lives, painful thoughts and feelings are going to come along for the ride. If I love with all my heart, at some point I will get hurt. If I value doing a … Continue reading →

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