Author Archives: Rob Archer

(How to) Stay on The F*****G Bus

I recently came across Helsinki bus theory, an interesting metaphor by the photographer Arno Minkinnen which is usually applied to creativity.  Being a big fan of bus metaphors, I started using it with my coaching clients and it resonates, so … Continue reading

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The Dangers of Language

“So, how do you feel?” “I feel like I’m grinding through life, sort of like I’m pushing a heavy boulder uphill.  Every day I’m grinding forward, but it feels relentless.” “So how does this feeling of ‘grinding’ actually show up … Continue reading

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The Different Motivational Properties of Values and Goals

When committing to a new course of action it’s useful to distinguish between values and goals because they have different motivational properties. Goals can be achieved.  This is why they motivate – we enjoy the feeling of purpose and progress … Continue reading

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Happy Christmas! (?)

Christmas is a time which for me has always been associated with pressure, comparisons and evaluations.   There was always a sense that other people, somewhere ‘out there’ were doing Christmas properly and that somehow I was not meeting that standard.  … Continue reading

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Tackling Our Culture of Cruelty

A recent Panorama investigation found systematic abuse of elderly residents going on in a UK care home.  Some of the most vulnerable people in our society were being ritually abused by their so-called carers: On the top floor of a … Continue reading

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Find Your Passion At Work! (Just Don’t Expect to Feel Passionate About It When You Do)

One of the reasons I left consultancy is because I felt that the work was meaningless.  In meetings I would try not to fall asleep as people droned on about project dependencies and stakeholder management and at the weekend all … Continue reading

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Psychological Flexibility in Difficult Conversations

It struck me that psychological flexibility is very powerful in relationships, and particularly in having difficult conversations.  However, this is something I rarely talk about on this blog (Rachel maybe more so).  So I thought sharing a personal example of … Continue reading

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